One of the biggest shifts in my coaching practice, including my own reflective practice, has come from thinking less like a coach… and more like an insight strategist.
In strategic communications, we often distinguish between three things:
- Data that tells us a problem exists.
- Diagnostic data that helps us understand why.
- A working hypothesis about what might actually be driving behaviour.
I’ve realised the same distinction applies remarkably well to coaching.
Most of us are collecting huge amounts of personal data. Consider all the things you observe about your behaviour, feelings, thoughts. Consider all the data you collect from your interactions with others, perhaps even including the feedback or information they give you. We process parts, ignore others, internalise elements based on past experiences. We don’t have the time or capacity to analyse everything objectively. Our brain takes short cuts. Rightly so as it helps us function. It’s when it stops us functioning however that it becomes problematic.
As humans we tell ourselves all sorts of stories about ourself and the situations we find ourselves in based on that data:
“I procrastinate.”
“I’m always exhausted.”
“I avoid difficult conversations.”
“I’ve changed jobs three times. I can’t stick at anything.”
“I’m frustrated that I’m overlooked.”
“I never seem to follow through.”
These are all observations. They confirm that something is happening. But they don’t explain it.
Yet this is where many of us stop. We mistake awareness for understanding. And understanding for change.
In coaching, clients often arrive with years of evidence about their patterns. They’ve read the self help books, completed personality profiles, taken strengths assessments, journaled, and listened to podcasts and audiobooks.
They know what they do. Sometimes in extraordinary detail. But knowing what we do isn’t the same as understanding why we do it. That’s where coaching becomes transformational. The coach isn’t there to interpret someone’s life for them or offer neat answers. They’re there to help them generate better diagnostic evidence.
Coaches are curious about context. About competing needs. About assumptions. About identity. About the stories someone tells themselves. We want to understand, or perhaps more specifically help the coachee understand, the environments that reinforce particular behaviours and what purpose a behaviour might actually be serving.
Because behaviours almost always make sense when you understand the system they’re operating within.
And then comes what I think can be the most overlooked part of coaching:
The hypothesis.
Not the truth.
Not the answer.
A working hypothesis. Perhaps you’re not procrastinating because you’re lazy OR perhaps perfectionism has convinced you that anything less than excellent isn’t worth starting.
Perhaps you’re exhausted because every decision is filtered through pleasing other people.
Perhaps you’re overlooked at work because you’ve become so reliable at delivering that you’ve stopped making your thinking visible.
Perhaps you’re struggling with confidence because you’ve confused confidence with certainty.
None of these explanations need to be right. They need to be useful enough to test. That’s exactly what happens in good coaching.
Instead of asking, “Why am I like this?”, we begin asking, “What if this behaviour is solving a problem I haven’t recognised yet?”
That question changes everything.
Because once we have a hypothesis, we can experiment. We can test a different behaviour. We can notice what changes. We can refine our understanding.
In that sense, coaching isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about becoming a better researcher of your own life. The irony is that we live in a world obsessed with self-awareness – of apps that track our sleep and stress, journals that record out thoughts, psychometric tools that describe our personality – we have more personal data than any generation before us , but data doesn’t automatically create insight. Insight doesn’t automatically create change.
Transformation happens when we become curious enough to move beyond the evidence that a problem exists, towards understanding the mechanisms that keep it alive.
That’s true whether you’re designing a business strategy, leading organisational change, or trying to understand your own patterns.
The goal isn’t to collect more evidence about yourself. It’s to develop a better hypothesis about what’s really going on.
And then have the courage to test it.
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